Ralph Waldo Emerson is often credited with saying: Life is a journey, not a destination.  If life is a journey, we can enjoy the ride – it’s all about choosing to embrace the experience.  Every day brings a new adventure and a fresh start.  It pays to enjoy the scenery and ask: what can I see, hear, feel, taste, smell, to live in the now.

If we believe it’s about one destination, there’s a chance that when we reach that destination it’s not as rewarding as we thought.  If it’s just a milestone along the journey, we pick up the lesson and move on.

With every road there’s ups and downs. Occasionally we come to a fork in the road where we have to make a choice.  One road serves our needs; the other may not!  Either way, we gain experience. 

Experience gives the test first and the lesson after. Hindsight can be a powerful thing if we move forward taking the lessons we learn with us.

If your gut tells you the other road is better, chances are – it is right. Trust it and know that if you make a mistake, you can always go back tomorrow and take the better road.  A New Day!

Our expectations determine our attitude and confidence.  If we expect to find something hard, we will.  We all have our own map of our world based on our life experiences, negative or positive.  From our map we form values, beliefs and attitudes which influence our self-talk and behaviour.  If we believe we can do something easily, we will approach that thing with confidence.  If we have doubts about our ability, we have to drive through a host of emotions to find determination and persistence. 

The power of positive imagination takes us further than we think we can go.  Try doing something in the best way you can, then imagine doing it better.  Do it again and note the improvement.

Through NLP techniques we can create desired emotional and physical states that prepare us to dive in and have a go because we learn to use the power of our unconscious mind.

NLP tools will free your unconscious power to excel creating new skills and capabilities. 

The aim is to seek to understand.  Ask yourself what has to be going on in their world for them to feel this way.

Listen to everything they say and resist drawing conclusions ahead of the game.  Put your thoughts aside until you can restate what they are saying, show you really want to understand.

Avoid contradicting words like ‘but’, use ‘and’ instead.  Rather than asking ‘why’ try repeating the last word or two as a question.  Or ask and what else? 

Try not to start any sentences with ‘you’ – instead try for empathetic ‘I understand how difficult that must be’ statements.  When you want to propose the solution, check for agreement by asking, ‘how do you feel about this solution?’


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